Child arrangements solicitors

Child arrangements

Making decisions about your child’s living arrangements after separating from the other parent can be challenging. We understand these challenges and the importance of child-focused solutions which put your child’s best interest first.

Understanding child arrangements

Every parent wants the best for their children, but keeping focused on this can be difficult in the middle of a divorce or separation. It is always best if you can work together to make decisions about your children and we can help you resolve any differences.

Child arrangements typically include:

Where your child will live

You may agree for your child to live primarily with one parent or that they will live with both parents (equally or otherwise) between both homes. The right living arrangement depends on your child’s needs and your family’s unique circumstances. Whether you agree a shared care arrangement or something different, the aim is always to maintain stability and security for your child.

How much time your child will spend with the parent they are not living with

Regular, consistent contact with both parents is often in achild’s best interests. We can help you establish a schedule that works for everyone, ensuring that your child maintains a strong relationship with both parents. This could include arrangements for term time, holidays and special occasions, both in person and by phone or video. 

Decision-making on key issues

Agreeing on major decisions about your child’s upbringing is really important but can be difficult after you have separated. This may include choices about education, medical treatment, religious upbringing, or even activities and travel plans. Clear, agreed-upon guidelines help prevent future conflicts and ensure that both parents are involved in important aspects of their child’s life.

Adapting child arrangements over time

Child arrangements made during separation are often the result of careful consideration and compromise. However, as children grow and circumstances change, the original agreements may no longer fit your family’s needs. At Anthony Gold Solicitors, we understand that flexibility is essential, and we’re here to support you in adapting your arrangements as your children grow older and your family evolves.

Why flexibility matters

Children’s needs aren’t static—they change as they move through different stages of life. What works for a toddler may not suit a teenager. Your circumstances may also change, such as moving to a new home, a change in work hours, or new family dynamics. Maintaining open communication with your co-parent can help you stay responsive to these changes, keeping your child’s wellbeing at the forefront.

Making changes together

The best way to adjust child arrangements is through ongoing dialogue with your co-parent. Regularly reviewing and discussing the existing plan can help prevent misunderstandings and ensure that it continues to reflect your child’s best interests. We recommend setting aside time to evaluate how the arrangements are working and to discuss any necessary adjustments before they become points of contention.

If you find it challenging to have these conversations, our team of experienced mediators can facilitate constructive discussions, helping you reach a new agreement without escalating tensions. Our solicitors will also be able to advise you on the best way forward if the other parent won’t discuss changes with you.

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How we charge

At Anthony Gold Solicitors, we believe in full cost transparency. From the outset, we provide a detailed breakdown of fees, ensuring there are no unexpected surprises. Know more about our fees in matters of family and relationships .

Our team focuses on delivering value, combining expert legal advice with clear guidance on costs, so you can make informed decisions without additional stress. Give us a call on 020 7940 4060 or email us at mail@anthonygold.co.uk to get started.

Words from our clients

Anthony Gold gave me confidence and clarity to manage my separation, and to get out of an abusive relationship safely -with all my children. Now we are thriving. They represented me firmly, not taking the nonsense of the other side. They were also fair financially. I am grateful for them.

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You are in very capable hands with Anthony Gold. They are my family solicitor. We have been using them for years and will continue for years to come. They will not lead you on in anyway, very straight forward. I strongly believe that if they accept your claim, you will win your case.

Family Law Client

It was really easy to work with David Emerson and his team. Very helpful and professional. Always replying on time and dealing with some difficult queries. I was provided with necessary advice and my family interests were always at top of the list. Very grateful for their help and with the results we got together.

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Comprehensive support for every stage of child arrangements

Navigating child arrangements can be a complex process, especially when circumstances are challenging or emotions run high. At Anthony Gold Solicitors, we offer a full range of legal and mediation services to help you resolve disagreements, adapt to changing needs, and make decisions that are in the best interests of your child. Our approach is designed to provide expert, empathetic support every step of the way.

Our collaborative approach: Finding solutions outside of court

Court proceedings can be stressful and costly, not just for parents but for children too. That’s why our priority is to help you find amicable, child-focused solutions using non-court alternatives like mediation and collaborative law. Our family law team includes some of the UK’s most experienced mediators, praised by Legal 500 and Chambers and Partners for their skill in handling even the most complex cases.

 

We offer several ways to help you reach an agreement without going to court:

  • Mediation: A neutral mediator helps you and your co-parent discuss and agree on arrangements. Mediation is often faster and less stressful than other processes, allowing you to maintain control over the decisions that affect your family. We have a number of mediators within our team, as well as solicitors who can advise you in the background of mediation, depending on your needs.
  • Collaborative law: Both parents work with their own solicitors in a series of meetings to negotiate and resolve disputes. This approach focuses on open communication and creative problem-solving, with everyone committed to avoiding court.
  • Solicitor-led negotiation: Our experienced family solicitors can negotiate directly with the other parent or their legal representative, helping you reach an agreement that protects your child’s wellbeing.
  • Early neutral evaluation: A neutral evaluator will provide impartial, expert guidance on the likely outcome if it were to be decided by a judge, helping you to make informed decisions and reach agreement without the need to go to court. 
  • Arbitration: An alternative to court proceedings which results in a binding outcome. We can advise you on the arbitration process and represent you throughout. 

If these methods don’t resolve the issues between you, our solicitors can assist with making an application to court and represent you throughout that process. Whilst court should only ever be seen as a last resort, our team are experienced in representing parents where court proceedings become necessary.

Our expertise in complex child arrangements cases

Our family law solicitors are experienced in advising and representing clients on a broad range of issues relating to child arrangements, including: 

  • Arrangements relating to who a child will live with and spend time with 
  • Specific issues such as schooling and holidays 
  • Applications for parental responsibility  
  • Grandparents rights 
  • Financial provision for children  
  • Applications to change or enforce an existing child arrangements order  

 

We are also renowned for our expertise in handling complex cases, including: 

 

  • High-conflict disputes: When communication between parents has broken down, or there is significant disagreement, we step in with expert advice and support to help de-escalate tensions and focus on practical solutions. 
  • Safeguarding & allegations of domestic abuse: Child safety is always our top priority. If there are concerns about abuse or safety, we act swiftly and decisively to ensure that steps are taken to protect your child’s welfare. We have significant experience representing parents at Fact Finding Hearings.  
  • International relocation & jurisdiction issues: Our expertise extends to cases involving international elements, such as relocating abroad or child abduction. We navigate the legal complexities of different jurisdictions to secure the best outcome for your child. We also frequently advise on relocating within the UK.

Adapting to changing needs: Flexible, long-term solutions

Life changes, and so do children’s needs. The arrangements that worked initially may no longer fit as your child grows older or circumstances shift. We help parents adapt their agreements with minimal conflict, ensuring that the new arrangements continue to reflect their child’s best interests. 

  • Reviewing & amending arrangements: We can guide you through the process of revisiting existing agreements, whether it’s through direct discussions, mediation, solicitor correspondence or any of the other non-court options.  . 
  • Court applications for variation: If an agreement cannot be reached, we assist with applications to the court to amend existing child arrangements orders. While this is often a last resort, it may be necessary in certain cases, where agreement cannot be reached or, for example, where there are concerns about a child’s safety. 

Why choose Anthony Gold Solicitors?

Our family law team is consistently ranked among the best in the UK by Legal 500 and Chambers and Partners. We stand out for our compassionate, client-focused approach and significant expertise in all aspects of child arrangements, from straightforward cases to those involving intricate legal challenges. Clients trust us because we combine technical excellence with a genuine commitment to putting children’s needs first. 

  • Recognised expertise: Our solicitors are praised for their skill, empathy, and ability to handle sensitive matters with care. 
  • Tailored, holistic support: We provide a comprehensive service, addressing not just the legal aspects but also the emotional and practical needs of our clients. 
  • A proven track record: With decades of experience, we have successfully helped countless families reach positive, sustainable agreements.

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Child Arrangements: FAQs

What happens if my ex-partner won’t agree to child arrangements?

If you and your ex-partner can’t agree on child arrangements, you don’t have to go straight to court. Mediation is often a helpful first step, allowing both of you to discuss your concerns with a neutral third party. If mediation isn’t successful, our solicitors can provide legal advice and negotiate on your behalf. As a last resort, you may need to apply to the court for a child arrangements order, where a judge will decide based on the child’s best interests.

Can grandparents apply for a child arrangements order?

Yes, grandparents can apply for a child arrangements order if they want to spend time with their grandchildren or if they believe it’s in the child’s best interest to live with them. However, unlike parents, grandparents usually need to seek the court’s permission before making an application. We can advise you on the process and help you demonstrate to the court why maintaining a relationship with your grandchild is important.

Can I change an existing child arrangements order?

Child arrangements may need to change as your child grows and circumstances evolve. If both parents agree to the changes, they can simply adjust the arrangements informally. However, if you cannot agree, you may need to return to mediation or apply to the court to modify the order. The court will only approve changes that are deemed to be in the child’s best interests.

Do I have to go to court to make child arrangements?

No, you don’t have to go to court to decide child arrangements. In fact, most parents prefer to reach an agreement through direct discussions, mediation, or solicitor-led negotiations. Going to court should be seen as a last resort, as it can be stressful and disruptive for everyone involved, particularly the children. Our team can guide you through alternative dispute resolution methods to help you find a workable agreement.

Can a child decide which parent they want to live with?

The court considers the child’s wishes and feelings as part of the decision-making process, especially if the child is mature enough to express a preference. However, the child’s choice is not the only factor the court takes into account. The judge will weigh the child’s views alongside other factors, such as their age, emotional needs, and overall welfare, to ensure the final decision is in their best interests.